How to tell if your wife/husband is a narcissist ⚠️

There is a saying pick the right woman she will make your life paradise, pick the wrong one and she will make it hell.. choose wisely! This is so true and rings true for woman picking men. Your life partner or long term relationship has to be build to be strong, full of fun and laughter but with a narcissist you build with the wrong person. Some people out there are not educated in narcissism and sadly fall victim to these sorts of people and even have kids with these people. Narcissist will will often financially and emotionally abuse you as they lack empathy. They will never change and if the do its for their own gain.

I have a story to tell about a woman picking out the wrong man to marry and have a family with, I will tell it here as an example and give you my thoughts on it as someone who knows all about narcissist personality disorder. The name of the woman has been taken out as has the kids and the man in question. This is a REAL story that happened to a woman who just wanted to have a normal family and I hope this educates you to make better decisions in your love life as you never know who’s out there.

I will call them jill and jim, So jill was working in a big city for a few years and managed to climb up the career ladder to a managers position. She was in her early 30s and was doing really well in her personal and in her work life. The company was a brilliant company to work for and she met new people everyday in the fashion store. Of course like any woman she had a few boyfriends before and always dreamed of finding the perfect guy and to have a house and kids. She was saving up while living in a small flat shared by a workmate, she wanted a mortgage on a nice family home but she didn’t have a family yet.

Jim was a narcissist, he had indulged in the narcissistic abuse cycle for years with every woman he was ever involved with. Idealization, devaluation then discard. He was working in the big city the same city as jill and he happened to go into her workplace one day to buy something and that’s how he met jill and got her number. Jim was from faraway, he grew up in a small community and was only working in the city short term.

He dated jill just like normal, texted her and went for food. Both had apartments in the city. He charmed jill making her feel very very special. Admiring her as shed never been admired before, she was a successful smart woman and had done very well for herself. She was full on confidence and light. Jim spoke with jill daily and they both had a work schedule and spend time together at weekends. After 6 months of whirl wind romance jill found herself pregnant unplanned. Jill wasn’t ready for a baby and was happy working in her fashion store and going out with friends then seeing her boyfriend every now and then. Talks were had and Jim couldn’t have been happier. He was in love with jill and wanted to have a family with her, he convinced her that she should relocate back to his hometown with him to have the baby and find a home. Jill would need to give up her flat, her friends and her job that she loved. Jim reassured her that once they relocated he would be the one going to work and she could stay home looking after the baby the after a while she would return to work and everything would be fine.

Jill agreed and wanted to start a family with Jim, this man who had asked for her number one day and swept her off her feet was making her feel like the most special woman in the world, the flattery and the compliments. It was too good to be true. Sadly jill didn’t know about narcissistic personality disorder and alarm bells weren’t going off about how quickly things had moved with Jim. She just thought she got super lucky. Jim did get a flat together for them in his hometown like he said he would and he also got a new job nearby, jill had maternity leave and had intentions of going back to work. She had a lot of savings in the bank and started purchasing items for the baby. She was busy with the baby at home and didn’t see that jim was slowly isolating her from friends and family. It was all jims idea.