If you are dealing with a narcissist or just want to be clued up on what to look for here are some tactics that narcissists are known to use on victims to get their own way. Please be aware that no partner or friend is perfect and do not make a mistake and think someone may be a narcissist if they display a little of this behaviour. These tactics are very very pronounced and are predictable in a pattern and that’s how you know its coming from a narcissist personality disorder and not just a disagreement with a partner.

GASLIGHTING – This is when a person or group of people make a person question reality, its a form of emotional abuse which can cause confusion, distress and anxiety in the victim.

BAITING – In the psychological sense, baiting occurs when someone intentionally acts in a way to elicit, trigger, or provoke an emotional response. 

TRIANGULATION – Triangulation is when a toxic or manipulative person, often a person with strong narcissistic traits, brings a third person into their relationship in order to remain in control. They can bring in a person in order for them to take their side during arguments or they can bring in a love interest to use as bait to tier partner and cause distress.

HOOVERING – This usually happens after the ” discard ” stage, weeks or months later a narcissist will reach back out to you… not because they miss you but because they need supply from you. They hoover you back up by saying ” hey there, its a been a while. How are you doing ? ” they will charm their way back into your life as if nothing happened.

FLYING MONKEYS

STONEWALLING

DISCARDING

BRAEDCRUMBING

PROJECTION

RAGE

FUTURE FAKING